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Below are the 5 most recent journal entries recorded in Aspie Furs' LiveJournal:

Thursday, June 5th, 2008
6:57 pm
i'm new here
hey there. that was me who said that. i'm so sorry. anyway. i'm tylerthekitsune and i have AS too.
Tuesday, November 6th, 2007
1:19 pm
Look me in the eye.
Has anybody read it yet? Look me in the eye by John Elder Robison

There is one part where he talkes about relationships and how he made his work. He is a furry. He likes to be petted and scritched.

Just wondering if anybody else noticed that.
Sunday, August 26th, 2007
8:15 pm
You and your 'Fursona' (if you've got one)
This is more "Shared Experience" than anything else, but here goes:

Each time I've broken back into the fandom, I've been perplexed by the idea of keeping a Fursona to get badges for and other similar ego-trip details. My attempts at having something akin to a furry avatar include:
  • One Blue Dragon-Snake (who was the 'duchess' of a persecuted and secretive island kingdom, and incidentally 1/4 deity)
  • A Pink Dragon with a silver coat
  • A Rainbow Gryphon (okay... really an Eyrie. I was in my Neopets phase then)
  • An 'Angel-Turtle', who was basically a Turtle Anthro with little mini-wings on her head and ankles
  • A Black Dragon with Rainbow specks in its scales
This list doesn't include my current fur apparent, who is currently dancing (in all her nekkid pixel glory) over in the LJ icon. Part of the reason I don't include her is that while I did put a lot of myself into her, I didn't set out to make her a fursona (she's originally an OC that spawned from one of my fanfics); however, she seems to have a lot more life in her than the others did (making the webcomic probably helped there).

The reason I bring this all up is that I wanted to ask how much trouble people here have had with coming up with fursonas (if, indeed, you have one at all), and if it's affected your level of involvement in the furry community. After all, it makes a little sense that having a fursona would help people remember and identify with you; but if for whatever reason coming up with a representation of you is difficult, it's going to give you trouble 'fitting in' past a certain threshold.

I'd love to hear what your particular hangup about fursonas is as well. In my case, it was a matter of indecisiveness coupled with no longer caring about some of my other characters once I finished making them; the creation process stirred me more than actually role-playing said characters. It doesn't help that I often have trouble pinpointing my own personality enough to define it in something as stereotyped as the furry fandom.
Thursday, August 23rd, 2007
3:16 pm
Okay, Aspie furs, how do you feel, and how do you handle yourselves at furry conventions?

I've only been to a couple so far, but my experience so far has been similar to other types of social occasions, in that I often find myself on the sidelines watching and having a sense that if I could interact more and fit in better I'd be enjoying it more. I am quick to add that despite this, I've had a better time at furry conventions than I typically to at other types of social activities, maybe because I'm around people who accept and appreciate some things about me that are too marginal or weird to bring up in most other settings.

Even so, it gets tiring if I'm meeting too many new people, at which point I feel kind of wrung out and need to fall back to hanging with the people I already know fairly well. Speaking of which, more than once I've met someone face-to-face for the first time whom I've known and been good friends with online, and was immediately as relaxed and comfortable with them as if I we had been friends offline for a while.

If there is something that works as an ice-breaker then it's easier to meet others. Maybe that's one reason I like having my puppet with me when I'm wandering around - it can be a people magnet because it's cute (despite there being a sense of, it's the puppet that's cute; pay no attention to the boring guy that's working it).

Okay, this post has been kind of meandering and not well organized, so I'll wrap up. What have been other Aspies' experiences with furry conventions, and do you have an approach that works for getting the most enjoyment out of them

Current Mood: curious
Wednesday, August 22nd, 2007
5:42 pm
Greetings, and welcome to the aspie_furs community! I've been aware for some time that AS seems to have a presence in the furry fandom. Furries recognize the term, and many claim it for their own. To those that do, hail and well met! I was diagnosed with AS in 2001, and have been living with it for all of my life.

However, I do have a bit to say about AS in the fandom; this is not directed at anyone in particular. I've heard complaints from multiple sources about aspie furries using the AS label as a shield to try and protect them from the consequences of their socially unacceptable behavior. They do something weird or wrong or off-putting, and when asked about it, say something like, "Oh, I've got AS, so you'll just have to deal with whatever-it-is that I did."

That is the wrong answer. Yes, one of the inevitable results of having AS is that you will, at some point, screw up in some social situation. It will happen, and it might happen quite often; perhaps more often than you realize. What's more, it might not be obvious even after people complain why they have a problem with you acting the way you do. As such, it's easy to think, "oh, they're just being intolerant" and that leads directly to a response like the one I just illustrated.

But, like it or not, we live in a neurotypical world. NT's can't choose to be aspies any more than we can choose to be NT. So even if whatever-it-was seems acceptable to you, it's often helpful to learn how to, when necessary, do things the 'normal' way. If you can, work out the reasons for people doing things that way, even if those reasons don't necessarily apply to you. Figure out how NT people react to what you do, and be considerate of the effects of your choices on them. That is the key to getting AS accepted as the mixed blessing it really is, rather than the silly excuse that many of our fellow furries believe it to be.
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